I was raised on a small farm in Benton County, Missouri. We had a grainery that had a standing population of redwasps, same nest year after year. Finally at about 24 inches bt 9 inches we had to exterminate the colont due to agressions on us. I accept that the normal behaviot is a oneshot colony however I don't believe it is always the case. While the queens may winter elsewhere some do return to their origin and reuse thier birthplace. I am currently battleing 3 colonies in one structure, 2 have colonised my stuccoed pillars on my entry walkway onto my porch, the 3rd has taken control of my inacessible attic space. The attic bunch has I believe succumbed to insecticide at the main entry point. There are no sentries on post at the entry point. The fron walkway is a different story. I poson a door and they knock more loose succo away and resume business as usual.

Female?
Yes, extremely cooperative. I could even touch her and all she would do is raise her wings up but then would put them right back down again and continue licking.

I'm sure someone will correct me if I'm wrong (which is quite likely), but I believe that overwintering queens are unaggressive, focused only on feeding and establishing their colony.